When You are Stuck in a Rut

By Alyssa Knoll

Community VA Engagement and Partnership Coordinator

As we endure frigid winter temperatures and the onset of the long days of winter, a sense of wandering in a snowstorm without direction can settle in, or being stuck in a rut. Maybe you want to get on a snowmobile and just gun it, going as fast as you can to feel some excitement because life feels so routine.

Now is the time to mix things up a bit, rekindle your curiosity about things that interest you or plan what is next. Think about the activities that bring you joy and a sense of accomplishment.

A few more things you might consider would be to take a class, learn a new language, or do some puzzles. When something aligns with your values, passions, or excites you, your on the right path. Self-care and aligning with your passions lead to a fulfilling life.

While generally temporary, intense cases of melancholy can lead to a sense of loneliness or isolation, feeling cut off from family and loved ones. Maybe it is the cold, or the three feet of snow. We all have different social meters, but everyone can get low with too much distance. One way to connect is to volunteer at an animal shelter, or to help others.

Sometimes the gas in our own tank feels too low to help others. This video shares the stories of multiple Veterans as they answer The Question, “have I asked for help?”

Sometimes reigniting your spark just means that you simply spend some time in connection – laughter and time with friends, other times it might be for support with struggles. Either way it is good to check in with yourself and those around you from time to time.

Here are some different options for all the different levels of social interaction from in-person, to online, or straight to your phone with Early Alert.

To help you get out of a rut or identify new wellness goals, the VA has the Whole Health program. To reach them, call 1-906-774-3300, ext. 33111.

Mental Health has Veteran peer groups that provide support. To join one of these groups, call 1-906-774-3300, ext. 32541.

If you or anyone else needs support, remember that reaching out is a positive step. Whether it's through friends, family, or professional resources, you're not alone in your journey. Don’t wait. Reach Out.

If you’d like to get involved with a weekly coffee social, the Vet Center in Escanaba hosts Coffee & Donuts every Wednesday from 8:00 a.m. to 10:00 a.m. at 301 N. 30 th Street in Escanaba.

Another weekly coffee event is Campfire Coffee in Negaunee every Monday with free coffee social and resources from 9:00 a.m. to 11:00 a.m. at 320 Iron St. in Negaunee.

Let them know you are a Vet.

Early Alert is a weekly check in through text messaging. To sign up, call 1-833-634-0770.

For emergent emotional crisis go to your local emergency room or call 988 press 1 for Veterans.